the_arianwen

To Avoid Rape

the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 10:59:03 GMT

How To Avoid Rape
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if a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
if a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.

if a man is drunk, don't rape him.
if a man is walking alone at night, don't rape him.
if a man is drugged and unconscious, don't rape him.
if a man is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape him.
if a man looks like your ex-boyfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape him.
if a man is asleep in his bed, don't rape him.
if a man is asleep in your bed, don't rape him.
if a man is doing his laundry, don't rape him.
if a man is in a coma, don't rape him.
if a man changes his mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape him.
if a man has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape him.

if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.

if a man is not yet a man, but a child, don't rape him.
if your boyfriend or husband is not in the mood, don't rape him.
if your step-son is watching tv, don't rape him.
if you break into a house and find a man there, don't rape him.
if your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.

if your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious person upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape them, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

tell your sons, daughters, god-sons, god-daughters, nephews, nieces, grandsons, grandaughters, and sons and daughters of friends it's not okay to rape someone.

don't tell your friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don't imply that they could have avoided it if they'd only done/not done x.
don't imply that it's in any way their fault.
don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with a drunk person.
don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

If you agree, repost it.
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the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:22:53 GMT

Hmm.. I've neglected this for far too long.

However, I have so much wonderful I want to put down in words now, and this seems to be the best place.

My life has become the most beautiful, amazing, magnificently blissful place in existance.

About seven months ago, I'd finally gotten my head around the dynamics in my school peer group enough to know who to spend time with, and when, to keep myself - and my friends - happy for as much of the time as possible. I'd finally worked out all these people, and understood them, and cared about them, and balanced the emotions and power and rumours so that it worked real nice.
Then, some new kid showed up... you know the kind. He was a loser. He was immature, and didn't understand the balance of group dynamics. He didn't notice what jokes were 'in' jokes, and didn't seem to see any of the accepted taboo subjects... It really threw things out of step for everyone, and we got pretty tired of him.

Except, I didn't. We started talking... about anything, little things. Then about more important things. We discovered we were two of the few people in the school who didn't really see sex as a taboo conversation topic. And, at our age, it's reassuring to have someone to whom you can talk. We started entrusting each other with our secret thoughts and emotions, and finally, our dreams and weaknesses.

We wandered through the verdant, lush paths of friendship. We held hands, and led each other forward; over fences, and around worse obstacles. In just a few weeks, we knew how inordinately happy we made each other.

But, somewhere in the following month, we realised we'd passed beyond to bounds of friendships. We were looking into each other's eyes, and hadn't noticed the limits where most friends stop moving forward. Finally, he told me he loved me. It wasn't until that moment, when I thought my heart would burst, that I realised just how much I loved him, too.

I'm his Spider. He's my Ocelot. And, we just happen to love each other.

He's still a loser, and he still doesn't see the subtlties of anything. He still tickles me too hard, and laughs at me when I'm a little too fragile. He still refuses to touch me at all affectionately, when anyone else is around. He still tries too hard, with the rest of our group.

He's still not perfect. But then, neither am I. And, he loves me.

I can't express how happy it makes me now, even just to type those words. He loves me... He loves me. HE LOVES ME! I still can't quite believe it, until he tells me for the next time, and there's so much trust and earnesty in his eyes, and he holds me like I'm something special, and tells me how lucky he is to have found someone so worth loving. My life is just magnificent. There's nothing in the world like being loved.

When we're alone together, everything changes for the better. He pulls me close, and lets me hold on to him, and - if I don't let him - he tackles me into the ground and bearhugs me until I don't want him to let go, even if I can't breathe, because he's my Ocelot, and he loves me, and he's not going to let me go.

I wish I could bottle up all the happiness, and sheer bliss I feel when he's near me. I wish I could give it to all the people I love. He gives me so much, and holds me so close, and - just sometimes, when he loves me and no-one else is around - he drops a kiss in my hair, and pretends it didn't happen. I love him, forever'n'ever.

Ew. My life sucks.

the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Fri, 28 Jul 2006 04:33:22 GMT

All of a sudden, my life sucks. I have no idea why.

My best friend is lying to me, and breaking his promises, and spreading rumours trying to get me beaten up. I aksed him why and he denied everything, but everyone I spoke to told me he was telling people this. I'm kind of scared, too, because he's telling the truth. I am gay, but at my school that can get you ditched and beaten up, so I hardly told anyone at all.

My crush has found herself a new boyfriend, and hasn't stopped talking about him since they started going out. I do want her to be happy with him, but i can't help being jealous every time I see them together. Plus, things haven't really been the same between us since I came out to her. *shrug* She was my best friend at the time, but I don't think it was something she wanted to hear.

Most of my friends have been more distant and less willing to talk to me, too... probably because of these rumours...

Argh. :(

Another meme.

the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Tue, 11 Jul 2006 07:44:38 GMT

(Click here to post your own answers for this meme.)

✓ I miss somebody right now. (So much...)	✓ I don't watch much TV these days. (Yup, my only show is Doctor Who.)	✓ I own lots of books. (Heaps. The house is overflowing.)
× I wear glasses or contact lenses.	× I love to play video games. (Can't stand them.)	× I've tried marijuana. (Never have, never will.)
× I've watched porn movies. (No way!)	× I have been the psycho-ex in a past relationship. (Never had a relationship.)	✓ I believe honesty is usually the best policy. (But I don't always stick to it...)
× I curse sometimes. (There are better ways to express yourself than swearing.)	✓ I have changed a lot mentally over the last year. (Yup, I'm no longer suicidal.)	× I carry my knife/razor everywhere with me.

* * * * *

× I have broken someone's bones.	× I have a secret that I am ashamed to reveal. (Weeeell, yes and no.)	× I hate the rain. (I love it. :))
✓ I'm paranoid at times. (Very true.)	✓ I would get plastic surgery if it were 100% safe, free of cost, and scar-free. (Yeah, no questions.)	✓ I need/want money right now.
× I love sushi.	✓ I talk really, really fast. (Sometimes.)	× I have fresh breath in the morning. (I don't think so...)
× I have long hair. (Nope, all cut short now.)	× I have lost money in Las Vegas. (Never been there.)	✓ I have at least one sibling. (Yup. She is God.)
✓ I was born in a country outside of the U.S. (Born and raised in Oz.)	✓ I have worn fake hair/fingernails/eyelashes in the past. (No way. All natural for me.)	× I couldn't survive without Caller I.D. (I don't have Caller ID... I think I'm alive.)
✓ I like the way that I look. (Mostly.)	✓ I have lied to a good friend in the last 6 months. (Yes. I hate myself for it.)	× I am usually pessimistic.
✓ I have a lot of mood swings. (Mostly due to hormones.)	× I think prostitution should be legalized. (No, not really.)	× I slept with a roommate. (Not legal yet.)
× I have a hidden talent. (Nope, no talents.)	× I'm always hyper no matter how much sugar I have. (I don't often get hyper, and it's never because of sugar.)	✓ I have a lot of friends. (I love every one of them. They make my life what it is.)
× I have pecked someone of the same sex. (No, but I would!)	× I enjoy talking on the phone. (Yeah, too true.)	× I practically live in sweatpants or PJ pants. (Not really, I love my jeans.)
× I love to shop and/or window shop.	× I'm obsessed with my Xanga or Livejournal.	× I'm completely embarrassed to be seen with my mother. (No way!)
✓ I have a mobile phone. (At last.)	× I have passed out drunk in the past 6 months. (Hate alcohol.)	✓ I've rejected someone before. (I hated it... it hurt more than I expected.)
✓ I currently like/love someone. (Too true.)	✓ I have no idea what I want to do for the rest of my life.	× I want to have children in the future.
✓ I have changed a diaper before. (My cousin's.)	× I've called the cops on a friend before.	× I'm not allergic to anything. (Bee stings.)
✓ I have a lot to learn. ("We don't know one millionth of one percent about anything.")	× I am shy around the opposite sex. (Nope, they're great.)	× I'm online 24/7, even as an away message. (I'm hardly ever on the computer.)
× I have at least 5 away messages saved.	× I have tried alcohol or drugs before. (Never have never will.)	× I have made a move on a friend's significant other or crush in the past. (I never would.)
× I own the "South Park" movie.	✓ I have avoided assignments at work/school to be on Xanga or Livejournal. (Always.)	✓ I enjoy some country music.
✓ I would die for my best friends. (Any or all of them. They are my life.)	✓ I'm obsessive, and often a perfectionist. (Unfortunately.)	× I have used my sexuality to advance my career. (No job...)
× I think Halloween is awesome because you get free candy. (Never celebrated it.)	× I have dated a close friend's ex. (Never dated.)	✓ I am happy at this moment.
× I'm obsessed with guys. (Nope, I'm gay.)	× Democrat. (...)	× Republican. (...)
✓ I don't even know what I am. (I often feel like that.)	× I am punk rockish.	× I go for older guys/girls, not younger. (Either, both, it's not that important to me.)
✓ I study for tests most of the time. (Always.)	× I tie my shoelaces differently from anyone I've ever met.	× I can work on a car.
× I love my job(s). (No job.)	✓ I am comfortable with who I am right now. (Almost completely.)	× I have more than just my ears pierced.
✓ I walk barefoot wherever I can.	× I have jumped off a bridge.	✓ I love sea turtles.
× I spend ridiculous amounts of money on makeup. (Never worn makeup.)	× I plan on achieving a major goal/dream.	✓ I am proficient on a musical instrument. (Trombone.)
× I hate office jobs.	× I went to college out of state.	× I am adopted.
× I am a pyro.	× I have thrown up from crying too much.	× I have been intentionally hurt by people that I loved. (Thankfully no.)
× I fall for the worst people.	× I adore bright colours. (I'm always wearing brown.)	× I usually like covers better than originals.
× I hate chain theme restaurants like Applebees and TGIFridays.	✓ I can pick up things with my toes. (Somethings...)	✓ I can't whistle. (Not since I got my braces.)
× I have ridden/owned a horse.	× I still have every journal I've ever written in. (Almost all.)	✓ I talk in my sleep. (But it's mostly gibberish.)
× I've often thought that I was born in the wrong century.	× I try to forget things by drowning them out with loads of distractions.	× I wear a toe ring.
× I have a tattoo.	× I can't stand at LEAST one person that I work with.	× I am a caffeine junkie. (Can't stand coffee...)
× I am completely tree-huggy spiritual, and I'm not ashamed at all.	× If I knew I would get away with it, I would commit at least one murder.	× I will collect anything, and the more nonsensical, the better.
× I enjoy a nice glass of wine with dinner.	× I'm an artist.	× I am ambidextrous.
× I sleep with so many stuffed animals, I can hardly fit on my bed. (Only one bear.)	× If it weren't for having to see other people naked, I'd live in a nudist colony.	× I have terrible teeth. (Not any more!)
× I hate my toes.	✓ I did this meme even though I wasn't tagged by the person who took it before me. (True.)	× I have more friends on the internet than in real life. (No, not true any more.)
× I have lived in either three different states or countries.	× I am extremely flexible.	✓ I love hugs more than kisses. (Well, never been kissed, but I love hugs!)
✓ I want to own my own business. (That'd be nice.)	× I smoke. (Never!)	× I spend way too much time on the computer than on anything else.
✓ Nobody has ever said I'm normal.	✓ Sad movies, games, and the like can cause a trickle of tears every now and then. (I ALWAYS cry at movies.)	× I am proficient in the use of many types of firearms and combat weapons.
✓ I like the way women look in stylized men's suits. (Oh, yeah, baby!)	× I don't like it when people are unpleased or seem unpleased with me.	× I have been described as a dreamer or likely to have my head up in the clouds.
× I have played strip poker with someone else before. (Probably never will.)	× I have had emotional problems for which I have sought professional help.	× I believe in ghosts and the paranormal.
× I can't stand being alone. (I like it.)	✓ I have at least one obsession at any given time. (Probably.)	× I weigh myself, pee/poo, and then weigh myself again. (Almost never weigh myself at all.)
× I consistently spend way too much money on obsessions-of-the-moment. (I would if I HAD any money.)	× I'm a judgmental asshole. (I hope not.)	× I'm a HUGE drama-queen.
× I have travelled on more than one continent.	✓ I sometimes wish my father would just disappear. (But it isn't very often.)	× I need people to tell me I'm good at something in order to feel that I am.
× I am a Libertarian.	× I can speak more than one language.	× I can fall asleep even if the whole room is as noisy as it can be.
✓ I would rather read than watch TV.	× I like reading fact more than fiction.	× I have pulled an all-nighter on an assignment I was given a month to do.
× I have no piercings.	× I have spent the night in a train station or other public place.	✓ I have been so upset over my physical gender that I cried. (Only through PMS.)
× I once spent Christmas completely alone because there was a miscommunication on which parent was supposed to have me that night.	✓ There have been times when I have wondered "Why was I born?" and may/may not have cried over it. (But I'm past it now.)	✓ I like most animals better than most people. (You can trust them more.)
× I own a collection of retro games consoles.	× The thought of physical exercise makes me shiver.	× I have hit someone with a dead fish.
× I am compulsively honest.	× I was born with a congenital birth defect that has never been repaired.	× I have danced topless in front of dozens of complete strangers. (Never!)
× I have gone from wishing I was a girl to revelling in being a boy to feeling like a girl again in the span of five minutes, and not cared a whit for my actual sex.	× I am unashamedly bisexual, and have different motivations for my desires for different genders.	× I sometimes won't sleep a whole night or eat a whole day because I forget to.
× I find it impossible to get to sleep without some kind of music on.	× I dislike milk.	× I obsessively wash my hands.
× I always carry something significant around with me.	× Sometimes I'd rather wear a wig in day-to-day life than use my own hair.	✓ I've pushed myself to become more self-aware and thereby more aware of others. (Often.)
× Even though I live on my own I still cry sometimes because I miss my mother.	× I hand wrote all the HTML tags in this document.	✓ I've liked something which a majority of people claimed was either bad or weird. (All the time.)
× I have been clinically dead for a brief period of time.	✓ Instead of feeling sympathy/empathy with people and their problems, I simply become annoyed. (Sometimes... sometimes I'm sympathetic, too.)	× I participate/have participated in auto drag races and won.
× I do not 'get' most comedy acts.	✓ I don't think strippers are money-greedy or slutty for dancing.	✓ I don't like to chew gum.
× I am obsessed with history/historical things and can't wait for someone to build a time machine so I can be the first to use it.	× I can never remember for the life of me where I parked the car.	× I had the TEEN ANGST thing going for at least 2-3 years.
✓ I wish people would be more empathic and honest with each other.	× I play Dungeons and Dragons weekly.	✓ I love to sing. (Constantly.)
× I want to live in my mother's basement when I grow up.	× I have a custom-built computer.	× I want to create a certain someone's babies, even though there's a 0% possiblity of ever achieving it.
× I would be in a relationship with one of my pets if they were human.	× I've gone skinny-dipping.	✓ I've performed in three plays.
× I enjoy burritos.	✓ I'm Irish and loving it. (Amen!)	✓ I have a thing for redheads.
× I am a twin!	✓ Most of the times, I'd rather do something intellectual instead of doing something generically 'fun'.	× Once I set out to finish something, I always stay at it until it is completed before I move on to something else.
× I wish there were a way to erase past mistakes. (I never regret.)	× I sleep more than 12 hours a day.	✓ I wish I could be prouder of what I've accomplished, but it's never enough.
× I need more time to myself.	✓ I wish I was more open-minded.	× I hope that I go really prematurely grey.
× I download songs from the internet.	× I've just reenacted chapter 58 of Death Note with my best friend.	× I say random things to freak people out.
× I'm still a little mad about the ending of Death Note.	✓ I love playing Truth or Dare.	× I love listening to slow music, but I hate singing to it.
✓ Music helps me remember that I am not alone. (I live off song, most days.)	× Playing my favorite sport makes me temporarily forget my problems.	✓ I think this survey is particularly long. (Hell yeah!)
× I prefer my LJ friends to my real-life ones.	× I can only hate someone that I love. (When I love, I love.)	× I've ordered an extra two shots of espresso to an Americano at Starbucks.

There you go. Anyone wants to know who I am, that's about it. :)

Uh-oh....

the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Wed, 07 Jun 2006 09:47:17 GMT

My sister just introduced me to that great, famed internet amusement, "The Llama Song".

I will now have it stuck in my head for the rest of forever... of the end of the month. Whichever comes first.

"Here's a llama
There's a llama
And another
Little llama
Fuzzy llama
Funny llama
Llama, llama
Duck...."

XP!! At last!

the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Sun, 04 Jun 2006 07:25:42 GMT

We finally updated the family computer to XP :) It's awesome! We have all the new programs and stuff... but now our computer won't connect to the internet. :( So, though I can borrow my sister's compy for a while, I can't be on MSN or Yahoo! Messenger. I miss you guys, but I hope I'll be back soon.... :(

On Show

the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Sat, 03 Jun 2006 00:39:48 GMT

My school was holding a MASSIVE talent quest night yesterday. It was pretty amazing, a talent quest and fashion parade cross for about three hours straight!

Of course, the funniest part was the teachers. There is nothing quite like watching your maths teacher with her hair in blue pigtails, in satin pyjamas dancing with your principal....

Our teachers go crazy at nights like this. It was
hilarious!

And, of course, my best friends were in the fashion parade. :) All dressed up in tuxes and gorgeous gowns... They looked all grown up!

Was a fantastic night all round. It was absolutely brilliant, and I've just about lost my voice from cheering and screaming all night. :)

Can't wait for next year....

Buddies Again!

the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Wed, 31 May 2006 07:07:47 GMT

I had an almost-fight with my bestie about a month ago, and we finally made up! :)

I thought he'd been ignoring me, and not spending any time with me, and I don't have any other really close friends... I thought maybe he was uncomfortable after I came out, but he said he didn't have a problem with that.
Then, he took a whole lot of days off, because he was sick and didn't even call me. So, I angsted for a few days, but I called him just then, and everything's fine :)

Yay!

Grandfather...

the_almighty_smart_person@hotmail.com — Sun, 28 May 2006 07:28:31 GMT

Hey, everyone. I am now officially a newbie on lj. I've been lurking for a while now, and am just finding out how all works with a real account :)

So, there's my funky introduction.

Actual Journal:

My grandfather sprung a surprise visit on us all today! We were out shopping, and we came home to see his car in the yard, and he was upstairs pretending to be asleep so we couldn't all tackle him like we normally do :)

I have the awesome-est grandfather in the world. :)